When a marriage comes to an end, people usually expect it to be upsetting when they are physically going through the separation. What people are not always prepared for is the high amount of stress that can be caused and the amount of time that it takes to finalise agreements. Using divorce solicitors in Guildford could help to eliminate some of this stress for you and will definitely save you time. Making an appointment to speak to someone is easy and you will be able to ask them any questions that you have about your separation. They will guide you through the entire process and work towards an end result that you are happy with.

Things you can do to reduce stress throughout your separation

Statistically speaking, legally separating from your partner is considered to be one of the most stressful events that you will go through throughout your entire life, alongside the bereavement of a spouse and moving house. It can be all encompassing and more than just a struggle, especially if you have made the decision to go through it alone without the help of any lawyers. Even with legal representation though, you can still expect to experience a high level of stress, so either way it is important to know what you can do yourself to help reduce your stress whilst going through your separation.

For some people, just talking to someone professional or a friend that is unrelated to the situation is enough to help calm them. It is important that you have someone to express your feelings to, so you are not just bottling them up. However saying this, not everyone finds talking helpful and if you really do not want to speak to someone then ultimately it is up to you. There are other things that have been proven to reduce your stress, such as going outside for a walk and enjoying the fresh air. Of course, not everyone has time to fit this in if they have a busy work schedule or children to run around after. A good routine where you allow for time to take care of yourself properly will benefit you too, with the littlest of things making the biggest difference to your stress levels.

Rise above the situation and stay calm

Stress during separations can be caused by all sorts of things. Corresponding with or speaking to your ex-partner can cause stress levels to rise, especially if things are not going the way you would like them to. It is important to remember that any conflicts that you and your ex-partner have are only going to extend the length of the process. Exaggerating your ex-partners behaviour or trying to get “one-up” on them will only lead to more stress eventually as it makes the process more complicated and your lawyer will not be able to represent you to the best of their ability. Being honest with your lawyer is vital, because if they do not have all of the correct information and know the ins and outs of the situation, they may not be able to produce reliable evidence and it may be harder for them to reach the outcome that you want.

Divorce, when children are involved, is often difficult. The high emotions mixed with a real or perceived need to protect children from the psychological fall out can make it a very difficult time. If there was a lengthy period of trying to keep it together for the kids,’ the bottled up resentment (and what could be years of angst) could be unleashed, making this difficult process even tougher.

Sadly, this can lead to the weaponising the kids and the restriction of communication has been used as a method to emotionally hurt one partner by the other time and time again. Due to the wording of the law, this can become a very real problem when carried out by he mother and can leave the father feeling hopeless but there are paternal rights which are legally recognised and enforceable.

The associated frustrations can lead to rash actions, which could be used against you in the future. Try to remain level headed and logical, your right to access can be legally reinstated.

Responsible steps to take

Start with a letter; keep it formal and clear; start with the date from which access was denied, and ask to have the ability to see your children. Ask for a written response and explain that if access is not reinstated you will seek out a Family Solicitors Emsworth. Keep copies of this letter and any that they may be received in the future as they are the foundation of your case.

If there is no response at all, it’s time to apply for an Interim Contact Order. The ICO is obtained by a court but is a formality for most people. It permits you access to your child at set times until long-term agreements are made possible in court at a later date. The restrictions on an ICO are harsh, limiting access to supervised visits in public places, only for a few hours at a time and with no overnight stays. This can feel truly unfair to a father who has done nothing wrong but the courts have to protect children from abuse (even if there has been none recorded) above the rights of the father.

Staying within the limitations of the ICO is important, as breaching it would be used to restrict future visitations. A full hearing can take more than 6-months, longer than a standard ICO; mentioning this at the hearing itself will typically result in the ICO being auto-renewed or ‘ticking over’ until the time of the full hearing, so you will not lose access.

The hearing itself will be heavily influenced by a children and family court advisory and support service report. This is carried out by interviewing family members, teachers, relatives and friends, to establish the context of the relationships of all the parties. It will make recommendations on visitations to the court which is highly likely to be followed. Then, a court order will be issued.

If this order is breached, and access is restricted by the mother, this would result in an abduction case, which would lead to a review of custody and possible prosecution.

So, you have chosen to have a walnut work surface installed as part of your kitchen renovation – good for you!

While it is no easy feat choosing a work surface for your kitchen that will stand the test of time for design and hardiness, walnut is a wood that never loses its natural beauty and is certainly hardy.

However, many people who are new to interior design may be surprised to learn that of all the wooden worktops available, a walnut worktop from the UK is often on the pricey side. And while it is easy to disclude it based on this alone, there are many benefits of having a walnut worktop installed in your kitchen.

In this article, these advantages will be explored, helping you to decide if this worktop is right for you!

Class

It goes without saying, that when you walk into a kitchen that has a walnut worktop, you will be amazed at how much class it brings to the room by itself. A dark, shiny wood that has chocolate undertones, it adds beauty to any room it is in and so, if you are looking to add a touch of class to your home’s decor, a walnut work surface in your kitchen is the way to do it.

Durable

Beauty is fine, but is it a tough wood? In short, yes, it is! Walnut is a hardwood that is resistant to chips, cracks and dents, but can also take the heat of the kitchen. Of course, in order to maintain it correctly, you will need to wipe up any spills and periodically apply varnish.

Individual

Another point to consider about walnut is that it is a very individual wood. While all natural woods have their own beauty, when it comes to staining or varnishing, the results are often similar across woods like oak and beech. But when it comes to walnut worktops, it is very tough to stain 2 pieces and have them look the same – each piece is as unique as a snowflake and this can be a great way to enhance your decor with your own personal touch.

Resistant

Back to functionality; many people are aware of how durable and mould resistant oak is.

Is walnut as durable? Yes, it is; as most of the walnut that is used to make kitchen countertops originates in northeast America, it has had to evolve to cope with harsher climates. This has enabled the wood to become hardier against mould and water, making it the perfect kitchen countertop! But to ensure it retains this natural defence against such things, you will need to varnish it regularly.

Natural hues

If you are a fan of uniqueness or having odd designs which you want to extend to your kitchen, you may be surprised to learn that walnut has a wide range of varying hues.

From darker brown to even a purple tint, this wood comes with some intriguing colours naturally woven into it, making it ideal for contemporary design. Perfect!

There are many things you might want to keep when moving to a new house. However, you will be limited by transport costs and maybe even the space in your new place. Usually, when you stay in one place for an extended period, you end up keeping a lot of items you don’t need or use. When cleaning out your old home, you have to decide which items you will let go of. This guide should help you decide what you should throw into the waste removal bin. [Read more…]